Shaming: How you’re doing it and how it’s hurting your progress
Written by Nyki Heggie, Kinisiologist and personal trainer at Vagus Fitness! Click here for $100 free to start training with Nyki!
It’s been about a month since I started Personal Training again, and there are a few things I have noticed that are really dragging me down.
There has been some really mean, cruel, and totally unnecessary shaming going on. Let me explain...
One of the things that I absolutely love about working at Vagus Fitness is we have the most amazing clients and a fantastic team of trainers.
We all like to have a good time and cheer each other on.
Who doesn’t like a little bit of friendly competition, singing and dancing, and throwing some weights around?
Now here’s the thing.
What I have noticed, is the shaming is NOT towards other people, it’s how some people are talking to themselves.
Too often I have heard a client say “I shouldn’t be this tired”, or “I’m so out of shape.”
First off let me just say YOU are awesome.
If your friend is working out beside you, you’ll cheer them on right?
We say things like “You’re doing great” and “You can do it!”.
We do this for a ton of different reasons.
I think its safe to say we want our friends to succeed and we like to help them do so.
So think for a minute, when was the last time you told yourself how well you’re doing?
Health and fitness isn’t just about lifting things up and putting them down.
Here are a few things to keep in mind before, during, and after your work-outs…
and basically Every. Damn. Day.
Nix the negative self-talk.
Think about the things your saying to yourself.
Would you say these things to a loved one?
Most likely not, so why would you say them to yourself?
I don’t know about you, but if I turned to a friend during a work-out and told them that their booty was about as round as the wall, or that they lift like my grandmother, I would most likely have something thrown at my face - and rightly so.
Not only are you going to damper their self-esteem, but also their desire to continue working out.
So don’t do this to yourself either.
You’re here, you’re pumping, you are changing your lifestyle day-by-day and deserve credit for that!
You’re killing it, day-in, day-out; whether your biggest accomplishment is a new personal best, or rolling out of bed, onto the floor, and crawling to your work-out.
Set the tone of your work-out (and your whole day).
In the words of a very wise client...
Look at yourself in the mirror, consciously decide that today is going to be a good day.
You are one of a kind.
You, my friend, are awesome.
Each work-out can and will feel different.
Some days you will feel strong, grounded and ready to work.
Other days you might feel a little tired, your balance might be all over the place, or you just can’t seem to lift as much as you normally do.
This is totally normal and even more important - it is OKAY!
Strength comes through perseverance and so do results.
One of the best, yet hardest, things you can learn to do is accept how your body is feeling; try your best and feel good about that.
Learn to be mindful.
You don’t have to be a master at meditation or a yoga guru to reap the benefits of a quick meditation.
Scientific research has shown that the occasional ten-minute meditation can help to enhance your focus and energy, reduce stress and anxiety, improve emotional well-being and elevate your mood.
The concept of emotional and spiritual well-being dates back well before the days we had to struggle uphill both ways in waist deep snow to school.
In our generations it has just started to regain the attention of the mainstream health and wellness industry.
An awesome perk for us novice meditators is that there is a wealth of free guided apps.
Meditation for dummies if you will.
You can virtually find any topic, from mindfulness 101, to reducing stress, to improving your performance at work.
Check out http://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/top-meditation-iphone-android-apps#2 to find an app that you would enjoy.
It never hurts to try...!
Unless you’re trying burpees…or split squats…or box jumps.
Be nice to yourself!
Nobody likes a bully.
Take the time not only to take care of your physical, but emotional well-being.
Check your attitude at the door and let yourself succeed.
Now I’m not saying you have an excuse to slack off during your sessions but this is what we are here for.
Your awesome, dashing, and charming Vagus Fitness trainers.
We are here to help push you if you’re feeling a little tired, help you smash things if you’re feeling a little frustrated, or even help find your zen if you just need to relax and find a little me-time.